Who do you blame?

Tuesday, October 15, 2013 0 Comments A+ a-


          When dreams don’t come true; when goals are not accomplished; when trouble descends; when problems surface; when you are tired of moving on; when the unexpected happens, who do you blame? We feel it easier to push the blame on another for what we should take sole responsibility for to ease our pain. Reality is that blaming doesn’t go a very long way in solving issues at hand. Pema Chodron says, ‘we habitually erect a barrier called blame that keeps us from communicating genuinely with others, and we fortify it with our concept of who’s right and who is wrong… it is a very common, ancient, well-perfected device for trying to feel better. Rather than own pain, we scramble to find some comfortable ground’. Well, I could agree no less. We have got to move away from the level of blaming, blaming and blaming again to that of being able to take responsibilities and embrace defeat as a motivator to doing something greater with more enthusiasm.