Who washes the dishes?

by - Monday, December 28, 2015




This is another excerpt from 'Marriage and the family' by Frederick K. C. Price

"Giving to God and the handling of money are the “big” things. Now let us look at the “little” things, the domestic duties that can become crucial points of conflict if not handled right.


You might wonder, “Man, why is he talking about things like that?”

The reason I am talking about these things is because these are what come up in counseling sessions. These are the questions that come up in letters and telephone calls. You may think that they are no “big deal,” but when they become a bone of contention, they become a “big deal”

Here are some of the questions I hear:

Who washes the dishes?

Who cleans the house? 

Who empties the trash?
Who shops for groceries?

Who disciplines the children?

Right away, some of you are going to say, “Well, those things are ‘women work.’ "

That is the world’s thinking. Society has stereotyped “women’s roles” and “men’s roles” in the areas of domestic duties. What is required is a little common sense. If the wife stays home, keeps the house, and takes care of the children, that requires one division of labour. If she works as many hours as her husband , thus dividing the responsibility of supporting the family, then he should accept his part of the divison of labour within the home.

A lot of men do not like to wash dishes, but make no provision- such as a dishwasher- to help get them done. They shunt all the dirty work off their wives, who works eight hours a day outside the home. A husband whose wife works but who expects her to bring home the check, then wash the dishes, take care of the home and kids, cook the meals, and then be his play thing after 11:30 p.m. is not being fair. He is not loving his wife as Christ loved the church. Not only is he not giving his life for his wife, he is not giving a fair time of his time and energy. 

It should not be the woman doing everything, nor should it be the man doing everything. It ought to be whoever does it the best, and whatever the couple is in agreement on".

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